Random. Acts. of Kindness.

Dear world wide blogweb. I'm sorry for my lack of posts of late- I hope I can make it up to you. Life got busy, and as a result my blog suffered. I hope you forgive me.

This flashback Fridays post will be postponed because finally- yes FINALLY- we have TTC news to report. Bear with me, this will be a long one (perhaps making up for my absence :) ) and probably not as snarky as you all might crave - don't fret, the snark shall continue...I'm *almost* positive.

So it's been a while... I've been busy not blogging. I've been busy acting like we're not trying but secretly hoping. I've been busy exercising and practicing yoga to make sense of it all.

Today was a good day, dare I say a great day. Sometimes the universe shits on you only to smile on you another day.

Go back with me to 4th of July weekend- Filthy (Dear Hubby in the future will from here in out be referred to as Filthy-short for Filthy McNasty, his bowling name...lol I don't want to jeopardize his identity!). Filthy and I go to a local rodeo to celebrate Independence Day. Jealous?, you should be, it was fun! First things first, we had to handle business at the rodeo, beer & hotdogs in that order needed to be consumed. Beer in hand we waited for our weenies. As fate would have it, Filthy's ex-coworker, let's call him Buck (haha because I can) was also waiting for a hotdog right in front of us. Buck and his wife had tried for 6 years to have a baby before they were successful with IVF. Buck gushed about their Dr.(let's call him Dr. Kind) and I was immediately envious. He recommended we go to Dr. Kind, I wanted to get our hotdogs and talk about treatments all night! I forgot we were at a rodeo, of all things, and their was mutton bustin' that needed to be enjoyed!  

We got Buck's info, and when we returned to our "seats", it was all I could do to not google this Dr. Kind on my phone. On the way home, we decided that we were tired of being jerked around by doctors who didn't really seem to care, or have ANY sort of urgency about the fact that we are having a problem conceiving. Buck and his wife really liked Dr. Kind, so let's try and work with him. That following tuesday I called Dr. Kind's office and told the lady on the phone, our ultimate goal is to work with Dr. Kind, how do we make that a reality?  She scheduled an IVF consultation appointment for the following Friday. Really? These other doctors have been giving us the run around, I tell this lady we want to work with Dr. Kind, she says come in next Friday. So far so good.

So the big Friday arrives, and I'm so nervous I want to puke. I spend the morning on the phone with my insurance, making sure I have a clear understanding of what's covered. (which this will be another post but my coverage is ridiculous  in a good way). Then I'm running around making sure we have all the lab results/ semen analyses bbt charts oh my! to show Dr. Kind. I have no idea what to expect from this appt. Am I going to get dildoed? Are we going to have blood drawn? Who knows?  

We first met with the IVF case manager who is an RN. Typically you meet with the Dr. first but he was running a little behind. The case manager was extremely nice and thorouh. We looked at a sample calendar of how things would flow. She gave us a stack of consent forms to sign if we decide to do it. At the end she said she was also a patient of Dr. Kind, her daughter is now 4 years old, she also has a 1 year old son, who was frozen for 2 years!  She gushed about Dr. Kind as much as Buck. I tried to remain level headed before actually meeting him- who knows, the chemistry might not be there, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't already excited to be working with him.

Next is Dr. Kind. He's small in stature and very pleasant. This place is out of our net-work so basically they know nothing about us. He asked us what are we working with, and we tell him low sperm count. I show him the semen analyses ( all 3 done were roughly the same ) and he looks at us and says yes, you'll need IVF with ICSI. He was very compassionate which was new for us. He told us to not get stuck on the sperm number, that he's worked with as little as 7 sperm (yes 7, as in 1.2.3.4.5.6.7). He wants Filthy to do 2 chromosome tests (Karotype & Microdeletion of Y chromosome) before we start and in the meantime, while we're waiting for those results, he wants Filthy to come in and give about 3 sperm samples to freeze just to cover our asses in case come game time he has none.  There are a few more tests that need to be completed, but this sounds like our only alternative and Dr. Kind really put our minds at ease.  So...the ball is rolling now I guess!

So, what was a great visit, became a legen...(wait for it, anyone?, How I Met Your Mother)...dary visit was what Dr. Kind did next.  Filthy and I had just finished up w/ the accountant, going over a price list, and we ran into him on our way out, thanked him again for meeting us, as I say to Filthy, "I wonder where we pay" (the consultation was going to run us $300)...Dr. Kind apparently overheard me, got our attention, and said "Just go" and shooed us out of the office.  I'm pretty sure my jaw dropped and we both replied, "what?" and Dr. Kind said "go on, its OK, just go, don't worry about it".  HOLY SHIT, am I dreaming?  I had to desperately go pee, so I told Filthy I'd meet him in the parking lot for fear someone would know we just got lucky.  As I was in the bathroom, I practically welled up in tears on the toilet!  I thought, pull it together for Christ's sake, I'm not even shot up with horomones yet!!!  It was just so extremely nice of Dr. Kind, things finally seem to be going our way.  (If you consider, IVF is your only option "going your way").  I peed as fast as I could, stuck my head out of the bathroom as if I was on some secret spy mission, and away Filthy and I went. Free IVF consultation, with a great IVF team. 

It was a total random act of kindness, and what's funny is on the way to the appointment that's what they were talking about on the radio as we pulled into the parking lot.  I remember them asking, what can you do, that would be a random act of kindness.  Dr. Kind did that for us, and it meant so much.  This post has been a week in the works because I haven't had time to sit and jot it all down. I remember thinking that day, I need to pay this forward, and do something kind unto someone else.  It's been a week and I haven't yet- it definitely won't be as off the charts as Dr. Kind's, but I'll keep my eyes and ears open for an opportunity.  Thanks readers for sticking with me even though I haven't posted lately!!! I challenge you all to do a random act of kindness for someone~maybe they'll feel the urge to do the same :) Happy Friday.